When Amy and I normally go on climbing trips we spend as little money as possible because as we all know every day you don’t spend money is a day you don’t have to work. So, when we decided to go to Yosemite for our honeymoon my initial thought was how to spend as little money here as we could. How our normal climbing trips go is we drive to an area and we stay put, especially in California, so we don’t have to spend money on gas. We usually have a bunch of objectives and climb two or three days on and then take one day of rest. But when we planned our honeymoon it felt like an afterthought to planning our wedding. I said to Amy “Tuolumne is rad and there is so much to do we’ll figure it out when we get there.”
We decided to take the week before our wedding off of work to get things set up for the weekend and to be able to spend quality time with our friends and family. I am so glad I did that and would recommend the same to everyone else. When we started our wedding break we set the intention for our time to leave work at work and to try our best to be with one another in the present moment. I know I did an awesome job of that and so did Amy. However, this didn’t lead to the most productive climbing trip. We were both in the moment and we didn’t think to get psyched about what we were going to do in the Valley.
When we arrived in Yosemite National Park we asked each other “what do you want to do?” Neither of us had an answer, but we figured it out, and we didn’t put any pressure on one another. We were able to go with the flow, we would wake up every day and say what should we do today? Some days we climbed, some days we would trail run, some days we would take photos like the tourists we were, and one day we even went into Mammoth and stayed in a hotel. It wasn’t a climbing trip it was a honeymoon. It was so wonderful to not have any expectations of what we would get done that day but how much fun we could have exploring a beautiful place.
I often lament having a more “professional” job and not being a full-time road dog. This often leads to mania around my climbing time which puts pressure on my leisure time. Because of this it can lead to a restless, irritable, and discontent affect which is super fucking lame. I am so glad that I took the time to be present and in the moment with my new wife, I believe that this was a healthy way to start our marriage and it put us in a position to focus on the love we share for each other and the mountains we call home.